Video chat nerves? Try this five-minute warm-up before your first call
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Talking to a stranger on camera asks a lot at once: being seen, thinking of something to say, and not knowing who's next. A short routine before you start takes most of those questions off the table. Here's a five-minute warm-up, plus a few habits for during and after the call. These are everyday tips, not medical advice. If anxiety gets in the way of daily life, a doctor or counselor can help.
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Minute 1: set up the room
Sit somewhere you feel comfortable, with light on your face and a calm background. Get water. Silence notifications. Fewer surprises in the room means more attention for the conversation.
Minute 2: test your camera and mic
Open the page and check your preview. Seeing that your camera and mic work removes one big what-if before anyone else is on the line.
Minute 3: pick your opener and your interests
Most of the nerves are about the first five seconds, so script them. Choose one line, like "Hey! What state are you in?", and use it every time. Then pick interests you genuinely enjoy, so the people you match with are into the same things.
If your mind goes blank anyway, the conversation starter cards in the call are there for exactly that. Tap one and read it out.
Minute 4: breathe, and hide yourself
Breathe in for four counts and out for six, a few times. Drop your shoulders and unclench your jaw. If your device lets you hide your self-view, do it. Watching your own face is a big part of why video feels more intense than talking in person.
Minute 5: set a time limit and an exit
Decide up front: "I'll do 15 minutes." A finish line makes starting easier. Remind yourself that you can hit Next at any moment, and that Report and Block sit right there in the call if anyone is unkind.
During the call: let a game carry it
Games take the spotlight off you. Rock Paper Scissors and Tic Tac Toe need almost no talking. This or That and Would You Rather hand you a topic. Starting a game in the first minute makes many calls easier for both people.
Bring a friend with Duo mode
If going solo feels like too much, Duo mode lets you and a friend get matched with another pair for a 2-on-2 call. Having someone on your side of the screen takes a lot of the pressure off.
After the call: count the attempt
Not every call will be great, for anyone. If you showed up and said hi, that's the win. Do a few short sessions rather than one long one, and it gets easier faster than you'd think.
Frequently asked questions
Is it OK to start with a game instead of talking?
Yes. momos has 7 in-call games, and opening with one is an easy way to warm up.
Can I use camera effects if I'm shy about my face?
Yes. momos has about 20 camera effects and lenses. They're a fine way to ease in, and you can turn them off once you feel comfortable.
Would matching people in my own state feel less intimidating?
Some people find it easier, since you share a time zone and local references. Set your match area to My state and see how it feels; you can switch back to United States anytime.
Can I chat with a friend next to me?
Yes. Duo mode matches you and a friend with another pair for a 2-on-2 call.
Is this medical advice?
No. These are everyday tips. If anxiety affects your daily life, talk to a doctor or licensed counselor.
Adults only. Never recorded.
momos is for people 18 and older. We don't record or store calls, and report and block are always one tap away. See the safety center.