60 would you rather questions for grown-ups in the US

Openers for the first 30 seconds

Quick, silly and easy to answer. Use these before either of you has had time to get awkward.

• Would you rather have every red light on your commute turn green or always get the parking spot right by the door?
• Would you rather only watch the Super Bowl commercials or only watch the actual game?
• Would you rather have your phone stuck at 5% battery forever or stuck on airplane mode one day a week?
• Would you rather end up on the stadium jumbotron at every game you go to or never catch a single T-shirt from the T-shirt cannon?
• Would you rather have a warehouse-club membership that never expires or free next-day delivery on everything for life?
• Would you rather have your mom read your group chat or have your payment app history made public?
• Would you rather narrate your day like a nature documentary or like a late-night talk show monologue?
• Would you rather always have the perfect playlist for any moment or always know the perfect GIF to send?
• Would you rather have your smart speaker argue with you or randomly compliment you out loud?
• Would you rather never wait in line at the DMV again or never go through airport security again?

Coast-to-coast and state-pride picks

Great when your match is in a different state. You'll both end up defending your corner of the country.

• Would you rather spend a year in an Alaska winter or a year of Phoenix summers?
• Would you rather eat only your state's signature food for a month or swap with a state you've never visited?
• Would you rather drive the Pacific Coast Highway in a convertible with no AC or cross Nebraska on I-80 in a luxury SUV?
• Would you rather go to the Kentucky Derby or the Indy 500?
• Would you rather settle in a town with one great diner or a city with a hundred average restaurants?
• Would you rather spend the Fourth of July at a small-town parade or at a big-city fireworks show?
• Would you rather tour every presidential library or every state capitol building?
• Would you rather get through a Minnesota winter with a heated garage or a Florida summer with no beach access?
• Would you rather always get the exit row but board last, or board first but always sit in row 32?
• Would you rather own a lake house in Michigan or a desert cabin outside Joshua Tree?

Adulting: rent, bosses and group chats

• Would you rather pay half your current rent forever or own a tiny house outright today?
• Would you rather have a four-day workweek in the office or a fully remote five-day week?
• Would you rather have a boss who texts on weekends or one who books 8 a.m. Monday meetings?
• Would you rather do your taxes every single month or get called for jury duty once a year?
• Would you rather have a roommate who never does dishes or one who practices the drums?
• Would you rather be the friend who always plans the trip or the one who always drives?
• Would you rather never get another spam call or never get another junk email?
• Would you rather get an extra $500 a month or two extra weeks of paid time off a year?
• Would you rather assemble flat-pack furniture every weekend or move apartments every year?
• Would you rather be in a group chat with 40 coworkers or a group text with your whole extended family?

Weekend, sports and screen-time picks

• Would you rather give up all your streaming services or your favorite sports channel?
• Would you rather watch every game of the World Series or binge a new show the week it drops?
• Would you rather have a backyard pickleball court or a home movie theater?
• Would you rather be a contestant on Jeopardy! or The Price Is Right?
• Would you rather tailgate in December in Green Bay or in August in Miami?
• Would you rather spend Saturday morning at a farmers market or at a minor league baseball game?
• Would you rather have perfect fantasy football picks or a perfect March Madness bracket?
• Would you rather listen to only country music for a year or only hip-hop?
• Would you rather have front-row seats to a band you're lukewarm on or nosebleeds for your favorite artist?
• Would you rather have your year-end music recap posted publicly or your phone's screen-time report?

Ones that make people stop and think

Save these for after the call has warmed up. People tend to give longer, more honest answers.

• Would you rather move back to your hometown for a great job or stay where you are with an okay one?
• Would you rather have one friend who'd drive across the country for you or ten who'd send a thoughtful text?
• Would you rather know what your coworkers honestly think of you or what your neighbors honestly think of you?
• Would you rather retire at 45 on a tight budget or at 65 with plenty?
• Would you rather be excellent at one thing or pretty good at everything?
• Would you rather get honest feedback all the time or only when you ask for it?
• Would you rather hold a job title people respect or a job nobody understands that you love?
• Would you rather live one mile from your family or a flight away?
• Would you rather spend a year volunteering abroad or a year building something in your own town?
• Would you rather be known as the reliable one or the fun one?

Wildcards for when the call is going well

• Would you rather have a golden retriever's optimism or a cat's confidence?
• Would you rather have a self-driving car that only plays polka or a regular car with your perfect playlist?
• Would you rather be judged on a cooking show by your grandma or by a celebrity chef?
• Would you rather wake up fluent in American Sign Language or able to play any song on piano by ear?
• Would you rather get a surprise snack in your mailbox every day or have a fridge that never runs out of your favorite drink?
• Would you rather be the mascot at a college football game for a day or the stadium announcer?
• Would you rather give a 10-minute talk on your weirdest hobby or sing the anthem at a minor league game?
• Would you rather find a $20 bill in every coat you own or never lose a sock again?
• Would you rather have a robot vacuum that talks back or a doorbell camera that narrates every visitor?
• Would you rather have a neighborhood squirrel that brings you lost keys or a pigeon that delivers your mail?

A 3-round format for a call with someone new